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How to revenge on your ex

Catchy huh ?
So you are seeking revenge on someone who has broken your heart ?
Really ?
This is interesting
And perhaps you think I am going to give you revenge ideas ?
I am rather going to redirect you to a post here
About Forgiveness
That’s where we will start.
You seek revenge because you haven’t forgiven this person.
Perhaps you feel slighted
Perhaps you feel that this person betrayed your trust, lied to you and decieved you.

Well, welcome to the world.
We are all called human beings and that is what we do.
We hurt each other.

Instead of focusing on revenge, what you should do before you hurt yourself is consider forgiveness
Don’t revenge someone who has done you wrong .

◄ Deuteronomy 32:35 ►

New International Version
It is mine to avenge; I will repay. In due time their foot will slip; their day of disaster is near and their doom rushes upon them.




Matthew 18:21-35The Message (MSG)

A Story About Forgiveness
21 At that point Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?”

22 Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.

23-25 “The kingdom of God is like a king who decided to square accounts with his servants. As he got under way, one servant was brought before him who had run up a debt of a hundred thousand dollars. He couldn’t pay up, so the king ordered the man, along with his wife, children, and goods, to be auctioned off at the slave market.

26-27 “The poor wretch threw himself at the king’s feet and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ Touched by his plea, the king let him off, erasing the debt.

28 “The servant was no sooner out of the room when he came upon one of his fellow servants who owed him ten dollars. He seized him by the throat and demanded, ‘Pay up. Now!’

29-31 “The poor wretch threw himself down and begged, ‘Give me a chance and I’ll pay it all back.’ But he wouldn’t do it. He had him arrested and put in jail until the debt was paid. When the other servants saw this going on, they were outraged and brought a detailed report to the king.

32-35 “The king summoned the man and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave your entire debt when you begged me for mercy. Shouldn’t you be compelled to be merciful to your fellow servant who asked for mercy?’ The king was furious and put the screws to the man until he paid back his entire debt. And that’s exactly what my Father in heaven is going to do to each one of you who doesn’t forgive unconditionally anyone who asks for mercy.”

The Message (MSG)

It is easy to say we should forgive people who trespass against us.
It is easy to say it
How easy is it to do ?
I was recently hurt.
So badly
I thought how could I ever forgive this person
At a time I wished the person dead. It was only for a few minutes but the hurt was so deep that I thought to myself perhaps he should just die.
Most of the time however, I focused on my hurt and my pain my expectations and the things I did.
The sacrifices I made which were touted as being for an ultimately bad motive.
I felt used, depraved and sad.
It was such a difficult time in my life.
But when I realised that despite it all I needed God to forgive me for my role in my hurt.
I needed God to help me through a difficult time.
I had to forgive my trespassers
The friends who turned their backs and laughed at me
Those who thought it was nice to scorn and mock and even those who could have helped the situation but made it worse.
In the end, I forgave and I was blessed for doing so.
I had exams to write and I wouldn’t have passed if I didn’t take that step of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is a really difficult thing.
But if you realise that while holding
On to grudges and wounds, you still need God’s help.
You will see that you have no choice but to do so.
If you expect God to forgive you,  you must forgive others.
This is a lesson I learnt and it gives me peace knowing that my heart remains clear.
Even though I sometimes have those memories and they make me shed tears, I know that I forgave and for that I will always remain blessed.
It doesn’t matter what people have done to you.
Let it go.

Happy father’s day

Psalm 127:4-5New International Version (NIV)

4 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
    are children born in one’s youth.
5 Blessed is the man
    whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
    when they contend with their opponents in court.

Happy father’s day
I saw a post on facebook which caused me to put a few things down.
The bible says blessed is the man who has his quiver full of children.

It is heartbreaking how many children are denied the right to life because their father’s denied their existence or denied them from conception.
There are so many unwanted pregnancies babies who lost their lives because their father’s didn’t want anything to do with the pregnancy.
There are very few women who can have the guts and stomach to keep an unwanted pregnancy.
Many more babies have died than we can ever imagine.
Millions of babies are aborted each week.
Legally or illegally.
Women even travel to places where abortion is legal to have babies removed.
If you didn’t take her for an abortion but you denied your child,  you are so liable.
It takes more than procreation and sex to be a father.
Why sleep with a woman if you don’t want to have babies by her and why sleep with her unprotected.

Where are the children who ought to wish you a happy father’s day today ?
Where is your quiver ?
Why is it empty ?
What have you done to the children God gave you because of irresponsibility and immorality?
If you have ever denied a pregnancy you need to know that those children are in heaven with God and they are looking down at you with the promise of a life they would have lived ended.
Their little innocent hearts, babies who didn’t ask to be conceived,  broken and torn because a man who God said should be their protector and care for them on earth didn’t want them.
This post also goes to all those who are trying to have a baby and are unable to for what ever reason.
Some day GOD WILL smile on you and bless your efforts.
Someday God will give you children to say happy father’s day to you.

And for those who have killed their babies, may God forgive you all.
Your enemies will shame you in court.
Your enemies will trample over you because you have lost your bow and your arrows are few.

To all those who are being the responsible and loving father’s God wants them to be, may he reward you always and like the psalm above has said the blessing of a father is that you will never be put to shame when you contend with your enemies in court.
This blessing follows you.

Staying Godly in today’s world

It is no news that the world has changed.
Values have been eroded and even children of God are dropping their boundaries slowly.
So much can happen  if we don’t keep ourselves conscious of the fact that heaven is real and that sometimes we can suffer for the consequences of sin right here on earth.
The greatest thing the devil does is make us unaware of his activities and his presence.
Sit back and think about it.
Have you compromised your values as a result of your daily affiliations ?
The things you watch on social media ?
The friends you keep ?
The lies you tell ?
Think about it.
God still wants to come for a church unblemished and untouched.
The time is near.



Grace and peace be multiplied to you as you increase in the knowledge of our Lord, King and Brother Jesus Christ
These things I write to you that your faith in Him may grow stronger, that your hope may be renewed and that your joy may overflow

Guys, do you know we have help?
In the summer of 2008, I had a roommate that was A LOT stronger than I was. There was once I needed to carry something,
But it was WAY too heavy for me to carry… So I called my roommate to help me out, and what was impossible for me to carry,
He seemed to lift up SO easily. You see, if I didn’t know him or how strong he was, who knows how I’d have carried that thing
As long as we were roommates… I KNEW whenever STRENGTH beyond mine was needed, I had help, I could ask him
Saints, do you know that the Holy Spirit is your “eternal roommate”?
What this means is that whenever ability BEYOND yours is needed… You have Almighty God right there to help you out

Maybe you need wisdom, maybe you need a revelation of love to show your spouse or someone else more love than you’re getting
Maybe you need something to happen before a certain time, maybe you’re sick, or even broke. Maybe you just can’t see a way out
WHATEVER your need is… I want you all to know YOU HAVE HELP. We are eternally married to the Holy Spirit; He isn’t going anywhere
I can understand why there will be no marriage in Heaven. When you remove sexual needs, what CAN’T the Holy Spirit do for you?

Didn’t even Scripture tell us “You do not have, because you do not ask”?
Didn’t Scripture tell us “Ask and it shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened”?
But listen, if I have the strongest man in the world living with me, but I don’t seek his help to carry things beyond me,
What does this reveal about me? Does it not reveal either PRIDE or IGNORANCE?
A friend I mentioned that had issues with light told of how by day 2, she was very frustrated. She didn’t know what to do
It got so bad that she just began to weep and she couldn’t even understand why. Once I heard this, my face lit up with joy,
I LOVE seeing the Spirit at work…

“Likewise, the SPIRIT also HELPS in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray
for as we ought, but the SPIRIT HIMSELF makes intercession FOR US with groaning which CANNOT be uttered
and we know that ALL things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose”
Did you see how the Spirit took over? Now check out what happened over the course of those days
On the WEEKEND, she received money from different sources. She got divine revelation on issues she had been struggling with
You see, what the enemy meant for evil, God turned it around for her good JUST AS HE promised He would

I’m about to make a faith-defining, life-changing statement… The Holy Spirit MUST become more real to you that flesh

There are three realities… Self-reality, world-reality and God-reality

When the Spirit is the REALEST Person you know… You are operating on God-reality; this is the HIGHEST and REALEST reality

When you operate on this… You can open the Bible, pick any verse and by the POWER of the SPIRIT, make it real in your life

God called LIGHT when He saw darkness… This tells me that God’s Word is MORE REAL than what can be seen
The apostle said “The grace on my life will not be in vain”. What are you doing with God’s divine strength, wisdom, faith?
Do you know that Scriptures say ALL angels are ministering spirits sent to help the saints? Do you use your angelic help?

Last week, I needed a certain amount of money in a very short time. So I said “The son of God cannot lack, angels go forth”
BEFORE I left my house (within 7 minutes) I had received it. This is the help MANY saints are living without
Angels LISTEN for the Word of God to perform it… Scripture says “They hearken unto the voice of the Lord”
This means WHENEVER I speak in the FAITH OF JESUS… Angels are released to go and do WHATEVER I declared
I KNOW the help I have. I KNOW that living in and with me is the One spoken of in Genesis 1:1
I’m not IGNORANT of His GREAT power and sovereign authority… Neither does PRIDE keep me from asking for His help
Of the MANY names the Holy Spirit is called… The one we should ALL know is “Helper”

As child goes to father for help… Whenever I need GOD’s ability, I ask the Spirit and TILL DATE He has NEVER refused me ONCE
May this help become your reality as you receive these words by faith. Amen & amen


This is the first in a number of posts which are consolidated tweets from our guest minister introduced yesterday- Effiong Okpo.

Grace and peace be multiplied to you as you increase in the knowledge of our Lord, King and Brother Jesus Christ
These things I write to you that your faith in Him may grow stronger, that your hope may be renewed and that your joy may overflow

A mango cannot be called a mango if it doesn’t have the characteristics of a mango
Likewise, we must stop calling what doesn’t have the characteristics of love… Love
Let us look at what TRUE LOVE is… “Love suffers long and is kind: love does not envy, love does not parade itself
is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil
does not rejoice in humility, but rejoices in truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things
enables all things. Love never fails”
So when they say they love you… but their love for you doesn’t look like what was just described, how is that then love?
I have found that EVERYBODY I’ve EVER met that said they have given up on love… Didn’t even know what love truly is
True love does not come from earth… It comes down from Heaven. So you cannot find love in sex
You cannot find love in money, cars and expensive things… So if you seek love in these things, you will ALWAYS get disappointed
While these things can be used to EXPRESS love… Love is the substance that makes it more than just sex, more than just money
What is the difference between paying for sex… And giving your wife (that you have sex with) money? Is it not love?
So BEFORE sex… Comes love. This is why the carnal mind cannot comprehend no premarital sex
If you are seeking love in the things of this world… I regret to inform you that your search would ALWAYS come up empty
But the one that finds God has found love…. Love (God) empowers us TO love, so the one without God CANNOT love

A godly spouse IS TO BE YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY… Even if you compromise on looks, DO NOT EVER compromise on this
We have ourselves to blame when we go looking for love where we cannot find God
How can you find love in an ungodly relationship? Thus Scripture says “Do not be unequally yoked”

A godly man uses his wife to SHOW OFF his wealth… It is by looking at my wife you should know my wealth, not my cars
Didn’t Scripture say to let our light so shine before men that they may see our good works then glorify GOD? Now watch this
The marriage between man and woman shadows the marriage between Jesus and the church
Is it not by looking at the church we are to know the exceedingly great glory, wisdom, and riches of Jesus?
The godly marriage is so beautiful… Husband finds ONE vessel to FOCUS ALL his love and affection on
If my wife is looking at other men, it’s my fault… Do you know what happens when God empowers you to love a woman?
I am not to shout at my wife for ANY reason, I am to listen to her, spoil her with gifts, nourish her with loving words

My busiest days would be the days I prepare breakfast for her… Why? To show her that after God, NOTHING is more important than her
She is to have a honeymoon experience… The WHOLE marriage. ONLY God can empower you to make this possible
Ladies, when you know how the godly man thinks, all those “bad boys” would be revealed as exactly what they are… Boys

No man that has been taught of God would open his mouth and ask you for a threesome or unnatural sexual acts
No man that has been taught of God would raise his hand to hit you, or withhold ANY good thing from you
Jesus doesn’t wait for me to ask before He blesses me… So why should I wait for my wife to ask me for money?
Jesus always surrounds me with help…So my wife is CLEARLY not my maid or cook. She will have ALL the help she needs
Again, only God can empower you to love the godly woman right. Because she is on a level higher than “high-maintenance”
A wife is the carrier of the grace my life has been lacking… She must be treated as such
This is why Solomon wrote “I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, DO NOT stir up nor awaken love until it pleases”
The love he has for you should not seem “new” to you… It should remind you of the love Jesus has for the church

The godly woman is a mystery to the ungodly man… He cannot understand her no matter how hard he tries
Have you seen how it is impossible to talk about love without bringing up marriage?

The man that loves you does not say “Move in with me”… He gives you a ring then the keys to EVERYTHING
Sisters, Father HIDES you from the wrong guys. That no guy is coming up to you yet IS no reason to be worried
No godly man gives a godly woman a prenup to sign. This is utter foolishness. Do you not know she will double your fortunes?

The godly man considers him and his wife to be ONE… Whatever he has to think about, he talks to her about
The godly marriage is to be an experience in Heaven BEFORE we get to Heaven
That you think marriage is a bad idea CLEARLY tells me you don’t understand true love

“Effiong all men are the same”… I see, it is obvious you have never met a son of New Jerusalem before

Do you know what it is to be married to a man that was TAUGHT to love BY Love Himself?
What do you know that you weren’t taught? Did you not know you have to learn how to express love?
I don’t know what the world is doing… But the more time I spend in the sanctuary of the Most High, the more I know it’s not love
If someone puts a Coke label on a Fanta bottle… Does that automatically make it Coke?
So that the world is calling whatever that thing is… Love, DOES NOT make it love. The substance will ALWAYS speak for itself
Father assures me that through us… He will show the world what true love is. Prepare for a season of godly marriages
May this revelation become your reality as you receive these words by faith. Amen & amen

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More hugs for your heart- an amazing blog guest.

I’m so excited and I know you will be too when you hear the news.
I’ve got an amazing person, a servant of God,someone who inspires me and has a delicate message for everyone in these times.

He’s going to be posting on the blog messages which are also part of his tweets on twitter handle and I have been so blessed from following him and reading his messages.
His name is Effiong okpo, and has a ministry, sons of elyon.
We will be starting off these messages tomorrow and will be posted at 6am every morning when we have one scheduled.
This is to enable you read them first thing every morning.
please now is the time to renew your subscriptions if you ended them as I apologise for all the inactivity.

I’m way too happy about this because I know that we are all going to be blessed.